You Don't Have to Be Alone.

Are you scared right now?

I’m scared so much lately. 

And I am not used to it!

Like, on a global scale, there is so much instability and cruelty. Wars that have been going on for so long, founded on the premise that entire people groups and countries don’t deserve to exist or have the right to safety and land. Or maybe just based on greed. 

And then, closer to home, feeling like Canada is under threat in a way that would have been unimaginable six months ago.

High prices. Low wages. Housing shortages. Job losses.

It’s so scary.

And my life has its own particular set of terrifying circumstances. Building a business. Parenting on my own. Will my car keep working? Will I make my friends in my new city? Will my son be okay? Will perimenopause ruin my body? Will I have enough money? 

I’m usually pretty pragmatic and confident. I usually know what to do. Or, at least, I know I can figure it out. 

But lately…well…

I’m not used to being scared like this. 

Honestly, to all my people who deal with chronic anxiety, I am SO sorry! This is awful!

Last weekend, I took my son on a little day trip to visit three of my best friends. It was nothing fancy. We used the party room in someone’s condo building. We ate rotisserie chicken and salad from the grocery store. Our two littlest boys pulled each other around and around the room in a wagon for three hours. We picked up someone’s oldest daughter from University to join us. 

It was loud. It was chaotic. It was way too short.

But there was this moment when I was sitting in a chair, listening to two of my friends chat about their older kids, work, and spouses, and I suddenly realized how calm I was. 

My nervous system was so…still.

My mind was quiet.

I wasn’t afraid. 

On the drive home, my son fell asleep, and I was alone with my thoughts, and all I could do was marvel at how peaceful I felt. Like something deep in my soul had been restored. 

How did that happen?

Nothing functionally different. In the world. In my life. 

But just being near these women made me feel so much safer. So much more grounded. So connected. Like there was a way forward. 

Like I wasn’t alone.

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When I first started working with a coach, it was part of an Executive Training Program for the non-profit where I worked. Everyone was gifted eight sessions with a coach as part of the package. 

I could not believe that this was someone’s job - to listen to whatever challenge or problem a person brought, get in their corner, and help them solve it. 

I loved every minute of my eight sessions and then said goodbye. I didn’t have any spare money to keep going. 

Three years later, I called that same coach and paid her to listen while I talked through something I couldn’t share with anyone else: Whether I needed to leave the organization I loved. 

She listened to me for 20 minutes and then said, “I think you might already know what you need to do.” 

I burst into tears. 

Then we worked on a plan.

That conversation gave me the courage to make one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made. And, because of my coach, I didn’t make it alone. 

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I’m sharing both of these stories because I want to say this one thing: 

You do not have to be alone.

Whether it’s parenting a child who’s struggling, galvanizing a new team, or making a decision that could change your whole life, it makes a world of difference when you have someone in your corner.

A coach can be that person.

Here’s what I bring when you work with me:

• Presence: I’m there for you, 100%. You have my full attention for whatever is most important to you.

• Freedom: You can say anything you want in confidence. You can talk about the stuff you can’t share anywhere else.

• Acceptance: There is no judgement, no right or wrong answers. You can be fully yourself.

• Perspective: When I notice a pattern, I’ll share it with you. I won’t hold back insight that can help.

• Momentum: Sharing the journey creates energy. I’ll help you forward towards your goals.

Whatever you’re carrying, hear me: You don’t have to be alone.

If this is resonating with you, let’s talk. 

The first session is always free. And you just might find that coaching is exactly what you need.

Reach out right HERE.